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Not All Black Folks Like Watermelon

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Not All Black Folks Like Watermelon

All my silver foxes, let me hear from you! Answer me this, have you become so much more inhibited, now that you turned 50? I’ve found that I am. At first, turning fifty was hard for me. I believe one reason it was so hard was that I felt I still hadn’t measured up to people’s expectations. You know how we do, especially us women. We want to be accepted in our corporations, our churches, and our families. And we want to be the best in those areas. So, what do we do? We turn to others (elders, parents etc.) for their advice and follow that advice religiously. However, by doing that, we lose ourselves and our voices. We become shells of ourselves, just to fit in.

I’ve realized I spent the better part of my life trying to be what others wanted me to be. Imagine living 50 years on this planet and not really knowing who the hell you are. That’s what happens when you try to be what everyone wants you to be. It will make you crazy trying to be business minded like Aunt Sally or have the drive like Uncle Richard.

One of the hardest things to do is waking up feeling like you always have to explain who you are, why you made the choices you made because they were non-traditional choices. Or trying to explain your very essence to others because they couldn’t understand why you weren’t compliant like the rest of your family or peers.

Well, I’m here to tell you after some serious contemplating about who I was, and where I want to be – I’m not going to apologize for who I am anymore. God made me. I’m quirky. I’m serious. I’m funny. I’m different. Dammit, not all black folk like watermelon. Some of us would rather have mango! I love me and my differences. I am who I am!!

Y’all be your fun-loving quirky selves. It’s ok to walk out your own path dancing to the beat of your own drum. Run like hell to the grassy path, you know the one, the one less traveled. See where it takes you!

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